Sometimes I get really nervous when my partners ask me about my love language.
This seems like a conversation that comes up in every romantic relationship I’ve been in for the past few years.
I agree that it’s important to know how the other party gives and receives tokens of appreciation… But I also feel kind of judged to reveal that my most important love language is receiving gifts from my partner. I wish that it didn’t paint me in such a materialistic light, because I think that that’s an unfair judgment. The truth is, I don’t care about fancy rings or expensive fur coats. I just want realistic, functional gifts that can improve my life. That’s why I was completely blown away when my significant other surprised me with a smart thermostat last month. For several months I had been complaining to him about my uncomfortable indoor air temperature. I was really tired of having hot and cold patches throughout the house every day. I also didn’t enjoy the sensation of coming home to an ice-cold house before the central heating system was running each day. My boyfriend was apparently listening very closely to my air quality complaints and thinking about a potential solution for my air temperature woes. The day that I came home and found that he had replaced my old dial thermostat with a brand-new smart temperature control device I nearly cried. After seeing how much he cared about my indoor air issues and took the initiative to get me a new HVAC solution, I think this is going to be the man that I marry.